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Have you ever felt ostracized for being Dad? (self.dads)

submitted 9 months ago by Oneeightnine to c/dads

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One of the first things I noticed when we embarked on this great adventure was just how tailed to Mum everything seemed to be.

I get it, they're likely to be the ones doing the majority of the caregiving, but still, as a hands-on dad I couldn't help but feel a little...pushed out by things. Nothing massive for sure, but little things like how a good chunk of the online resources are written as if Mum is reading exclusively. Or how pretty much every baby group in my area is advertised as a Mum and Baby group. It's far from the end of the world, but it can be pretty intimidating and unwelcoming to a new Dad.

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[–] OfficeMonkey@lemmy.today 34 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I knew I was excluded and was generally okay with it... Until the kid was about four months old. Family went out to dinner. We were having a good time, baby needed changing, I grabbed him and MY diaper bag (yes, I had my own). I went to the restroom and discovered the only changing table was in the women's room.

I knocked, said hello, and went in. The only woman (teenager? College student? Younger than me, at least) who came in while I was changing the baby was polite and even offered her help.

But this US chain restaurant didn't even consider the possibility that someone other than a woman would change a baby. Come on.

[–] stiephel@feddit.de 5 points 9 months ago

Same thing happened to me in a German restaurant. I had to change my son in The ladies' restroom. To be fair, none of the women didn't mind me there, which was a relief.