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[โ€“] shasta@lemm.ee 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'm poly. My gf and I have been together for almost 10 years and just had a baby last year. It's been grand, and still going strong, and still feel no reason to get married, so we aren't going to. It took several years for our families to realize that wasn't a phase, and we're not going to change our minds. They've seen by our example that you don't need to be married to be in a committed, loving, and trusting relationship. I think that has also helped open their eyes to new possibilities in other ways, like maybe monogamy isn't the only way to live a happy life, like they have always been told.

I'm not saying this to contradict you. I don't have any problems with people who want to live a monogamous life. It's just not for me. I wish more people could accept that everyone has a different definition of happiness and fulfillment and stop trying to force their prescription onto others.

This is exactly what I'm talking about! I'm so happy for you!