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Once a friend asked me to buy him cigarettes while I went into the store to buy some food for myself and he was waiting outside. I did it, but I hated every single second of it. The fact that the cashier, and anyone around me could potentially think I was a smoker... utterly terrifying. The humiliation was even greater when the cashier asked for my ID (I was around 20 that time, I looked young enough for them to assume I was underage). Disgusting, horrible experience. Never again.
There was another case, where my best friend actually didn't really ask for help, but it was a really serious case. Her mom got into jail as a victim of someone else's attempt to clear himself in a corruption case. I helped her with my savings (a thousand dollars or so) to get her out of jail. Well, this was another horrible experience, but in a different way. I would do it again if such a situation arises, but luckily her and her entire family have managed to move to a better country since then.
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The biggest favor you've ever done for anyone in your entire life is.... Buying a pack of cigarettes?!
LMAO
More like undergoing the humiliation of what it comes with.
Other than that... yeah, I don't have many friends, so not many favors to take care of.
So you think highly of what other people/ strangers think of you?
Ujhhhhh.... Huh.
I dislike smoking and have physically fought someone for intentionally and repeatedly blowing smoke in my face, but I don't think I'd have quite this reaction to someone asking me to buy them a pack.
I'd just say "nah I'm not helping you kill yourself" and leave it at that. If that causes a problem with our friendship, then they value their cigarettes and a moment of pleasure over our friendship and they aren't worth the time.
I'm with you in the "I helped bail someone out" though, not sure how I'd feel if someone asked me to help with that.