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So, how should people find mates? Obviously these stupid apps don't work and the chance encounter system we use in western societies don't, and neither do the marriage-as-transaction systems societies used centuries ago, or the subjugation of any one gender. So how should we ensure most people who want a mate get one?
I never had a problem getting women back when I actually left the house. Sophomore year of high school until I got a job at the airport, I practically always had a girlfriend. This included going to ERAU, a campus with 1 female for every 8 males. I had a girlfriend within weeks of arriving on campus.
I disappeared into that work-home to sleep-work thing for a couple years, ended up going back to school at yet another very male dominated aviation school, and I wound up with the only chick in our class.
All the while I have never once gotten a date through a personals site or app; I have a feeling there's a question or two on the profile that they shadowban you for the wrong answer, such as being 5'7", or I suspect being non-christian. To put this into a time scale for you, it feels weird to call them "dating apps" and not "dating sites" because I gave up on the whole idea before "Mobile First."
I'm single right now for one very simple reason: I don't leave the house much.
Edit: to those who have downvoted this comment, could you explain to me why. Let's have this conversation.
You should just leave your height and religion out of your tinder profile man
I gave up on online dating before Tinder was a thing. The dating sites I did try had those as fields.
Also...I hate religion, and that is very important to who I am as a person, and hatred of religion is an important trait I look for in a mate, so.
So you gave up online dating a decade ago? The Internet has come a long way since then.
I don't know what you're looking for, but I would urge you to give it another try if you're not finding what you want. It's not magic, but it will simply put you in front of a lot more people than you would otherwise see. If your perfect match is a 1 in 1000 you've got way better odds running into them online than via random chance IRL.
Cool man. Enjoy your lonely, bitter life I guess. I will continue enjoying mine with the partner I found online.