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See, I get that this is a thing, but I don't understand why you just want someone to listen. What does sitting here, looking you in the eye and opening my ears, specifically do to make you feel better about the problem you're having?
Sometimes, you get so pissed off at something that you really need to vent out your frustration with it to feel better.
Especially if it's something you can't do anything about.
Alright so I'm getting that letting the steam out unburdens you with the emotions you feel from the problem. Another reply said people feel understood when their pain is known, would you say it's the same feeling here or does it branch off a little bit?
Sorry I don't really talk or vent a lot in real life so it's something I'm still trying to understand
I think I can help with this. I'm going to start by saying the obvious. Everyone has some kinds of issues that are difficult for us to fix, or get rid of, and that can last a very long time, if not for all our lives. I'm talking more about personality traits or behavioral problems that are very stuck with us from our childhood.
That's why we say no one is perfect, right?
Well, it happens that these issues often generate the same kind of problems throughout our life, and all we can do is get a bit better every time these arise. We know this, and we know that some problems are generated by the same long-lasting issues we've always had, and that, in itself, is very frustrating.
When one gets involved in this kind of problem one more time, and you know it was generated by these long-lasting, difficult-to-get-rid-of issues, that's when we need someone to tell them: 'Sister, this thing is once again affecting my life. I know what the problem is, and I'm getting better every time this happens, but it's just so frustrating. I hope you understand I'm trying really hard and acknowledge my struggle. I'm human and I'm not perfect. You aren't perfect either, right? Just give me a moment to be human with you, and I will be there for you when you need to be human too.
Of all the answers I've gotten I think yours was the one that made it the most clear to me with its specificity. Thanks for helping me understand *a lot *more than I expected
You're welcome, it actually made me very happy to write it down.