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[โ€“] the_itsb@hexbear.net 89 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I did not understand orgasms or realize I wasn't having them with my partners until I finally did have one. ๐Ÿ˜‚ I genuinely didn't understand that it could feel that good until it did.

Another win for abstinence-based sex ed in rural America!

[โ€“] irmoz@reddthat.com 39 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That is a win in their perspective. For those types, sex is something a woman lets her man do to her. Her pleasure is not even secondary, it isn't even a consideration.

[โ€“] wick@lemm.ee 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Tbf, they theoretically would rather men didn't get any pleasure either, and procreation happened by holding hands after praying.

[โ€“] irmoz@reddthat.com 3 points 1 year ago

Haha you're not wrong there

[โ€“] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

How does one not know what an orgasm is supposed to feel like??? Like did you never masturbate or anything (I feel rude saying that, pls feel free to ignore the invasion of privacy).

But also being on reddit taught me that this is smth many women have gone through

[โ€“] UnverifiedAPK@lemmy.ml 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

In my experience it's women who squirt that are more likely not to know what an orgasm is supposed to feel like. They'll definitely feel good, like edging, then get to a point where it feels like they've overstimulated themselves to the point of peeing the bed and stop. Not realizing there's a "getting over the hill" moment to an orgasm.

[โ€“] Uranium3006@kbin.social 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We shouldn't have let the religious right gut sex ed

[โ€“] JokeDeity@lemm.ee 12 points 1 year ago

We shouldn't have let the religious right