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Sore Losers of Lemmy: What Helped You Start to Lose with Grace? (lemmy.sdf.org)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by JAJLWolf@lemmy.sdf.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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EDIT: Thank you all so much for your thoughtful input. It means so much to me.

Hi, all. I'm looking to change my nasty tendency to be a sore loser, particularly when playing games. I tend to personalize losses that are of no consequence. When the game starts to shift against me, I often stop trying as hard because it feels hopeless. My partner is much more proficient at board games than I am, and I don't want this toxic trait of mine to make games less fun for us. What are some things you all tried to lessen this train of thought, if you've experienced it?

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[–] fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If it won't bother you in six months, its not worth getting bothered about.

[–] dan1101@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Or even 6 days or hours.

[–] fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 4 points 1 year ago

While I did upvote you on this, I think it's a matter of scale. Some things in that scale are certainly worth being bothered over, especially if you're younger or have rapid life changes. However I fully agree things like games fit in there (for me).

That being said, everyone is built different, and what I might think is trivial could be the most important thing in someone else's life in that moment and bother them for days. So I tend to lean towards the 6 month range, as it covers most everything.

[–] Carighan@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Exactly this. For me, life happened. My life has way bigger issues than being upset about or even truly recognizing a loss in a game.