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[–] rwhitisissle@lemmy.ml 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

That's not gaslighting. It's catfishing. Gaslighting is when you try to trick someone into thinking they're crazy or that their memory is unreliable by lying to them about events you both experienced or knew about.

[–] gohixo9650@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

people love to use new words they've learnt even when they've misunderstood what they actually mean. Funnily enough, that comment has been upvoted 83 times, showing that the majority of people are either fine in using terms in wrong context or are also not aware of the correct term.

[–] ADTJ 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You can't really deduce what the majority of people think without knowing the raw numbers of how many people saw it.

I suspect the majority probably didn't vote it at all

[–] gohixo9650@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 year ago

sure, there are people just leeching, but something objectively wrong usually gets more downvoted than upvoted.

[–] arin@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's not even cat fishing cuz he's not pretending to be the matched person

[–] rwhitisissle@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Catfishing is defined by wikipedia as

a deceptive activity in which a person creates a fictional persona or fake identity on a social networking service, usually targeting a specific victim. The practice may be used for financial gain, to compromise a victim in some way, as a way to intentionally upset a victim, or for wish fulfillment.

OP made an account on Tinder and pretended to be a hot guy by utilizing the image of a totally different, super attractive man, for the purpose of exploiting women and manipulating them into being at a particular place at a particular time so he could make it seem like the person they matched with stood them up, only to show up as a less enticing backup option to someone who was emotionally compromised. I mean, he obviously didn't because none of this is real, but if he had, it would still be catfishing.