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[โ€“] bloopernova@programming.dev 22 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

TW child abuse

Both your mum and dad are using you to hurt each other. The stuff they tell you, the way they hit you and scream at you, all that is wrong. It's not your fault, and I love you because despite all the evil they unleashed on you, you grow up to be a sensitive, caring, loving human being.

You have autism. You are not broken, or lazy. You spend your time daydreaming because the real world is incredibly shitty to you. Next time you see a doctor, ask them to speak to them alone, and ask them to get you the help you need.

None of those children are your friends. They're nasty bullies and you don't need their approval.

Your life gets better. Find this girl in America and be her penpal. Meet up, she's your soulmate. Tell her everything you know to help her heal, and she'll help you in return.

Memorize these dates and use them to make fucktons of money. Use your billions to plant trees. Plant as many trees as possible, as early as possible.

See you in 40 years. Sincerely, you.

Edited to add:

This is a hug, your parents never hug you and you need to be comforted. They've never told you they love you, and that's incredibly important to do every day.

It's ok to cry, don't shut that part of you off to stop the bullying.

Don't get on a motorcycle like your dad wants, you don't have good hand eye coordination or good eyesight, and the accident you get into leads to lifelong chronic pain.

You are not ugly, and it's ok to be weird! Celebrate your uniqueness!

Instead of sitting outside a locked house for hours after school, go to the library and read, you're allowed to do that.

That teacher is a pervert, don't be their friend just because they talk to you.

Spend more time with your aunts and grandmother, they love you and can help you feel normal.

Your mum lies to you about a lot of stuff, she's very damaged and taking it out on you because you arrived a month after her 16th birthday. She was r***d by your dad and made to stay with him, none of that is your fault or burden to bear.

Your brother is an annoying little shit, just walk away from him. He grows up into a nasty fascistic asshole who blames everyone else for his failures. Including you. Do not ever get involved with anything he does, especially to do with computers

You have way too much put on you for such a young person. Read these books for ways to withstand it all. I wish I could travel back in time and adopt you.

[โ€“] calhoon2005@aussie.zone 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Bloody hell. I hope you're doing better these days.

Yeah, I'm doing much better. Thank you for caring :)