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Something I WONT miss from Reddit/other social medias (beehaw.org)
submitted 1 year ago by StrahdVonZarovich@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org
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Like most other people here, I originally came here from reddit. Ive been having a blast so far, and I much prefer the forum-style of this. After about a week of using Lemmy I realized there was something intrinsic to reddit that Lemmy doesnt have. And I wont miss it. Too many people on reddit were way too horny. I was really annoying, but Lemmy seems way more chill. Plus its refreshing knowing that the people on here arent all bots.

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[–] Manticore@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

I think my biggest horny-joke peeve was the "must not look". The 'joke' relies on the shallow nonsensical (and frankly, misandrist) idea that every man is an emotionless, purposeless horndog who only ever cares about sex, and is literally incapable of being around a woman without immediately trying to do a sex.

Do most men enjoy sex? Do most straight men enjoy admiring those they find attractive? Sure, like most people do, regardless of gender. Does men's desire deny those men their personhood or identity; are they devoid of other passions or interests? Of fucking course not!!

But for reddit... a man and woman are in the same photo. The photo could be of literally anything, it doesn't matter, it works for karma-farming. You now have two possible jokes:

  1. He's looking at her tits/ass? You don't need to make a joke, actually. Post as-is, let the comments fill with (sigh) unzips or similar. Actually, make that your OP post title, too.

  2. He's not looking at her tits/ass? Surely he is as desperately horny and single-minded as the rest of us, surely his sexual frustration defines how he moves throughout the world like it does us, surely he is thinking must-not-look must-not-look.

The kind of people who make that joke really indicate that their own sexual frustration has become such a defining part of their own lives that they can't fathom anybody else feeling differently.