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[โ€“] ekky43@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That is true. And on the other hand, or perhaps just by handling their experiences differently, we have those who dislike or even might be offended by being "babyed" or carefully handled/talked down to, and would much rather have an up front interaction where they feel mutually respected.

Both kinds of people exist, and that is fine. One must just not mistake soft language as universal tool that can be used everywhere, or risk standing out as an "asshole".

[โ€“] button_masher@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

What a nice and beautiful response, asshole!

(Sorry.. Couldn't help myself. I'm sure you're a lovely person)

As someone below commented, empathy matters. Knowing the audience is key, whether you're giving the middle finger or giving a thank you speech.

You reminded me of this moment: https://youtu.be/up0d6cZQhIU