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Those with parents who hold opposite political views than you, how do you go about disagreeing? (lemm.ee)
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To be more specific, my parents raised my siblings and me to "respect" them, saying "yes sir, and "no ma'am" to everything they said. Spankings, all of that. Typical super conservative evangelical parents. Before I learned better, I was that way too. I went to college and since then have embraced the left more and more.

They'll say things now and then that are really distasteful politically. Today I made an Instagram post about DeSantis lying about liberal states allowing post-birth abortions and I got several family members railing against me. I'm tired of staying quiet when this happens. I think that, because how my parents raised me, I'm afraid to speak my mind to older family members. Fuck that though.

Has anyone else had this experience? I wonder if therapy would help. I just don't know how to explain it.

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[โ€“] Cylusthevirus@kbin.social 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This is solid advice. The importance of setting and enforcing boundaries cannot be overstated, particularly when things are emotionally charged.

I've made it very clear that I won't talk with my parents about politics. Mom can't help taking the odd pot shot, but I just deflect or ignore it. I don't engage anymore because there is zero benefit to engaging.

We talk about the things we can talk about and let the rest go. If that becomes not enough for them or they can't respect boundaries, we scale back contact until they do.