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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by Platypus@lemmings.world to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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I'm aware that I'm worthless but still can't turn off that libido or sexual desire and is killing me. Another thing to add to the list of failures as an male adult.

No job, own place, car, friends, virgin. Why am I even alive?

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[–] GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I’m aware that I’m worthless

No, you're not. You are in a bad place or in a bad time. Everyone has worth, but sometimes the people around you fail to recognize it or the place you're in fails to feel right. It doesn't stay that way, change is the only constant in life. Everyone has periods where things suck, even the best life. You'll find a place and time and people who love you, even if depression lies to you.

My anxiety voice tells me all sorts of terrible lies about how I'm worthless, despite overwhelming evidence. Sometimes I believe it, and those days are bad. It takes some time, but I get past it. You will, too.

[–] Platypus@lemmings.world 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Past? That's has been my life for 20 years by now. Nothing is going to change

[–] Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I'm really sorry that you're having these feelings, nobody deserves them but unfortunately that doesn't stop them from happening. Obviously every situation is different but for me personally it took me over 30 before I started to change. Could have been a lot faster if I recognised some things sooner but that can't be helped now. The hardest part is that the change has to come from you and it's going to be hard but it's worth it and things absolutely can change.

[–] Platypus@lemmings.world -2 points 1 month ago

I'm older than you. No, nothing changes

[–] iii@mander.xyz 2 points 1 month ago

It took me 30 years to learn that change is possible