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I weigh like 115 pounds and I'm like 5'7. So I feel like those toxic masculinity dudes always want me to "prove my worth" a little extra cause of my size. Everywhere I go people call me "kid", but I'm a father of 3.
I'm a big guy and small guys are always trying to prove themselves against me ever since I can remember. this toxic shit has got to go.
Its probably some sort of vicious cycle. Especially if the small guy is still dealing with past biases. Now I pretty much announce I'm nuthin' but a nerd so you won't get far talking to me about sports. This seems to kill a lot of toxic competition unless they're in my same department.
That’s really weird. If they’re tough guys then picking on you proves nothing, except that they’re cowards.
I wanted nothing to do with those dudes, so I never ran into this problem. Masculinity standards are dumb and pointless; it’s a mug’s game.
I dont either, but the only place that even called me back for their IT position was a construction company and the name of the game is work or starve for us poors.