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Women of Lemmy, do you mind being called cute? (lemm.ee)

submitted 3 months ago by ramble81@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Or do you prefer other adjectives? Do you consider it to be insulting or do you take it for a compliment if it was meant as one? (Assume an amenable relationship between the two people, not a random stranger or creeper)

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[–] ramble81@lemm.ee 11 points 3 months ago (3 children)

So what I’m gleaming from this, all other things being equal:

objects (clothes, accessories): okay
the person themselve: not so much

[–] JustinTheGM@ttrpg.network 3 points 3 months ago

The word you're looking for is 'gleaning'; 'gleaming' is more like 'shiny'.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago

For me, if anything, it depends on intentions. Most often though I'm just told I'm attention-seeking as opposed to cute, even with things like my clothing which consists of the same few things in circulation.

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 2 points 3 months ago

Two of the comments so far mention "cute" as response to clothes/aesthetics. Just two.

Don't make blanket statements for interacting with women (or people in general) based on two internet comments. Please. Two comments.