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If I wrote out a list of things I am interested in regarding my appearance that are gendered by society, I would think I was "a girl." However, in practice, it was incredibly bad for me and being forced as such was a constant drain on me.
None of these stories are proof, but slowly realizing the sheer number of them from my past did indicate exploring was worthwhile:
But the fact is, when first asked about it, the thought of growing into an old man actually sounded a bit nice.
All of these were difficult to see at the time. Difficult to see all at the same time. It is hard to tell if you are miserable when you are constantly miserable. It takes perspective to put it all together. It takes self-examination, experimentation, experience. You are stuck in your own head, after all.
I did not feel like I was in the wrong body. I felt like I was trapped in expectations of what I could do to my body.
I won't regret any of it even if I suddenly decide to "transition back." My life is a journey and I will do whatever feels right for me. My body is my own. It's done me so much good to be able to explore who I am.
My suggestion to those questioning is generally to "try out" your gender of choice somewhere completely inconsequential. Video games, a temporary account, etc. Quietly following trans spaces for a while can give some perspective as well.
I don't care if I "know for certain" that I'm trans. I think trying to answer that question as some kind of solid certainty can often run counter to the entirety of being trans.
I'm happier in a testosterone-based system, I am comfortable in a way that I never was, and life feels like I have a future now. I made changes that made my life better, and only changes that made my life better.
Trans just happens to be an accurate label. Labels are tools, shortcuts in communication. Not prisons.